Play To Win

Choosing to play to win instead of playing not to lose.


In life and business are you trying not to fall off the horse, or seeing how quickly you can get back on? 


Many years ago, as part of my coaching accreditation, I had to do an assessed session over the phone with someone I’d never met. I wanted some practice, so I asked an experienced coach friend of mine if I could coach her. After our session, she gave me some feedback. She said it was OK, but my coaching felt like I was ticking boxes. I explained that I was incredibly nervous, and I didn’t want to fail my assessment.


She said: “But rather than just trying not to fail, what if you treated the session as your chance to shine?”


This question changed the whole context for me. I love coaching and chose to make it my career because it is something I am very good at it – so why not SHINE?


During the assessment, I coached the guy around his relationship with his daughter. We went deeper into that conversation. After the call, he thanked me sincerely for my help. I felt like I had served him in a very human way – not ticking boxes but serving him in being a better father to his daughter.

The shift in context from “not failing” to “shining” was so simple, but very profound. I was serving no one as I was trying not to fail.


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I have learnt to recognise opportunities to step beyond my comfort zone in the pursuit of things that bring me true fulfilment – it was a small tweak that has ended up making a significant difference. We now speak on a regular basis and Simon has become the voice which says “you can do this”.

Keith Banwaitt